Being an independent woman

Because yesterday is a women's day, I would like to write about independent woman.

I think I can classified myself as an independent woman, I can do most of the things by myself and I really hate to show the other that I am not okay or I am 'weak'

Actually, at some point I think that's not good for mental health but being too dependent with people will be too painful because you will expect more from people. Hahaha.

I talked with my male friends, what they think about an independent woman. Most of them saying that woman need to be an independent but don't be too much independent because if the woman did that the man will felt like they are nothing. So, most of them said to be 70% dependent and 30% independent or maybe 50:50. Most of male friend who said 70:30 is more like a male who is really like to be around and spend their time together while the 50:50 one have a tendency to give the freedom. Even with 70:30 female, if the male give the freedom they will have a tendency to choose their partner instead of their friends. I know that from my friends too.

So, I will start with the advantage of being independent 

1. You don't need to ask for the permission. 

2. You can be yourself. I think most of the independent women that I know, they have a really high value in life and even you are being yourself a lot of people will respect you as you are.

3. You have your freedom to choose. And you don't need to be anyone else to please the other.

4. The other opinion is a suggestion, that's not a problem for you but you know when to improve.

But, the disadvantage of being independent are

1. Sometimes they said that you don't have heart of feeling (I heard it a lot)

2. Sometimes you think you need someone to lean on when you are having a hard time but you cannot trust anyone

3. When you are getting older, all of your friends will have their own life so you cannot force them to be with you as before

But, being an independent make you really adapt for being by yourself. Yeah, that might be a but hard for an extrovert but spending time alone is always a best part for healing and improving yourself