Adjustment Disorder

Apakah Adjustment Disorder?
Setelah mencari di Google, Adjustment Disorder dikatakan bahwa ini adalah ke abnormalan dan reaksi berlebih terhadap suatu sumber stress dalam hidup. Hal ini bisa terjadi karena perubahan yang terjadi dalam hidup, bisa karena suatu event atau lebih dari satu event. Biasanya bisa memperburuk keadaan sosial, pekerjaan, maupun fungsi akademik. Biasanya gejalanya akan meningkat dalam waktu 3 bulan, dan efek dari disorder ini akan hilang dalam waktu kurang dari 6 bulan setelah sumber stress dihilangkan.

Apakah ini NORMAL?
Ya, ini sangat normal dan bisa terjadi kepada siapa saja, bukan berarti kalo kalian menderita disorder ini bisa dikatakan bahwa lemah mental atau tidak bisa menghadapi masalah maupun tidak dewasa. No, I really want to tell you guys, it can be happen to anyone someday you might be felt like that too. And it is normal, it is really okay to say that you have this problem.

Apa yang harus dilakukan untuk membantu orang seperti ini?
Pertama, yakin kan bahwa masih ada orang yang peduli dan selalu ada buat dia. Bukan di jauh in ato di omongin.
Kedua, coba dengarkan, karena memberikan solusi kadang bukan hal yang sebenarnya mereka inginkan.
Ketiga, setiap orang punya kelemahan dan jangan jugde orang cuma dari keadaan, sering kali orang malu untuk mengakui karena dengan mengakui mereka dianggap sebagai orang aneh.
Keempat, jika orang tersebut sudah tidak sanggup untuk menahan itu sendiri, tidak ada salahnya untuk menyarankan meminta bantuan dari yang ahli di bidangnya.
Kelima, jangan pernah membuat orang dalam fase ini kecewa. Karena sesuatu yang kecil pun akan sangat berat untuk mereka

Bagaimana cara mengatasinya?
Pertama, kalo anda berkeTuhanan berdoalah, mungkin ini cara Tuhan agar kalian kembali ke jalan yang benar
Kedua, ambil waktu sejenak untuk berpikir, menengan pikiran, dan melakukan apa yang kalian suka. Put yourself as a priority.
Ketiga, carilah orang yang bisa membangun anda, bukan cuma buat senang" saja tapi juga bertemanlah kepada orang yang kalian bisa gain something dengan ngomong
Keempat, jangan malu untuk meminta bantuan. It will be hard, trust me, that was hard and it is still hard until now. Tapi kadang krn ga berani minta bantuan itu yang buat kita jadi makin lama pulihnya

Apalagi yah... Kalo anda memiliki masalah mental jangan takut dan bisa di coba untuk self healing dulu. Nah, kalo kalian yang punya teman dengan masalah mental jangan dijauhi tapi bantu lah mereka untuk pulih. :)

Penyesalan terbesar saya adalah saya tidak bisa menolong orang sampai akhirnya saya merasa kan sndiri bahwa pulih dari tekanan mental itu tidak semudah sakit kepala atau sakit gigi yang bisa sembuh dengan istirahat dan makan obat :) :)

CHONGQING: INTRODUCTION

Have you ever heard about Chongqing before? My Chinese friends said that NOW, CHONGQING IS THE HOTTEST DESTINATION in CHINA. WHY? I also don't know why but I need to mentioned before that CHONGQING is REALLY BIG. hahaha.

Previously, our tour guide said that CHONGQING is as big as AUSTRIA. hahaha. Is it true? Maybe, I already stayed a year and I still cannot explore all of area in Chongqing. This city is famous as a mountain city and a foggy city. It is not too cold during winter but it is really hot during summer. But, if I compared with the other area, I think Chongqing is not that hot but Indonesia is warmer. hahah. Living in CQ is really comfortable but studying in China (especially as an engineering student) is not really FUN if you are not so 'SCIENTIST WANNABE'.

Chongqing speciality is HOTPOT, most of people really like spicy food especially HUAJIAO (aka MALA). You can find a lot of HOTPOT area almost in every corner. CQ is the origin city of Hotpot, so if you want to try the authentic hotpot you should try one in Chongqing.

Chongqing also being famous with their BEAUTIFUL LADIES and they are mostly like asian (not really tall) because northern people is really tall compared to Chongqing people. When I asked people why they choose Chongqing, most of them answer me because Chongqing is the place which can provide both old and new China, it has a beautiful nature and a lot of skyscrapers. After this I will provide you several information regarding travel in Chongqing, Place to Hang Out, Place to Eat, and a lot of useful tips to go around. Save your money and visit Chongqing before it become to crowded to visit (like the other cities in China).

Shanghai Disneyland Vs. Hongkong Disneyland

When you write something and you really into it and that's became your dream on your sleep ~ how you felt about that? I really have a dream about this but not meet with my expectations. Hahaha. I re-watch and saw my last trip video and photos on my laptop and compare both of them. I made it because I just want to share what my opinion is and my friend also asking me which one is better but I couldn't decide that because every place has their own speciality.

First Question is Which one do you prefer, attractions or performance? THIS answer will be your answer too. Hahah. Because HKG provide more children like theme park and more performance then SHA. But, the attractions at SHA is really cool. That might be not as cool as Universal Studio but the attractions is more adult like than the HKG ones.

So, I really can't decide which one is better because I love both of them, if I can find the place that combined that will be really fun with shorter queues time. So, I'll comparing both if them from my point of view. It's might be different to everyone. I came to HKG last year (May 2017) and I went to SHA several months ago (Feb 2018). My friend who also came twice to HKG she told me there is not too much change, but yes there is an additional things and maybe they renovated the building.

So, here we go to compare and let your heart decide which one is better ~

1. Food
For the main course, I think both of them offer the same thing and the price also quite the same if we use the conversion. But, the box is really cute. But who will take the box after they use that for eat.

When I was in HKG, I ate a cute waffles and buy a cute candy. But, I can't find that in SHA. My friend told me that he bought a bread, but I didn't come to that store so, I don't know what kind of food that they provide there.

2. Official Stuff
Official Disney Merchandise is really easy to find in China and the price is really cheap in the mini market or supermarket they provide with official license stickers on the food and in SHA they also has a really big Disney store near the pearl tower. They don't need to go to Disneyland to buy that stuff. In HKG there was an official store too but the goods is not as vary as in SHA.

But, in China you can find someone who sell the Keychain or "Minnie" hairband with a really cheap price outside or inside the park ~

The hairband collection in SHA also not as much and as cute as HKG collection. But, I am also not sure because the difference time is almost a year maybe they already out of stock for that kind of stuff.

Shanghai

Hongkong

3. Queue
The queue is really amazed me, I prepare myself and told my friend the que is really crazy when I came to HKG, but it's crazier a never ending line and I couldn't see the end of that line. Hahahaa. Actually, because I came during off season I didn't wait that much in HKG, but my friend who went there this holiday she said she wait an hour for one attraction but for us when we already choose the most suitable time when everyone already go back to their school and their work but we still wait for 3 hours for every attraction. I got a fast pass to tron, but only one. Because, the other already been taken by the other who run to the booth and take the paper and that's really fast and if you have a free pass you need to wait until designed time to come. It's better to use the apps if you can. Because they let you get in first if you use you phone then the one who use the paper.

4. The Castle
I love SHA castle because I can went to see what is inside the castle and there is a photo spot and an attraction like an interaction movie maybe. I am not really interested because that also will take a lot of time to wait. But the castle is really big! HKG one only like a gate, yes only a gate ~ I didn't remember anything looks like a castle beside that gate.

5. Photo Spot
If I want to take a photo with disney characters, SHA make a special place for that and maybe there are somewhere at the street but they already stand by and sometimes they change the character but still on that queue so everyone who wait will have a photo. When I was in HKG I rarely find any character because they only stay at certain times and if the queue is too long they will cut you and told you to wait for another character.

6. Fireworks
I really watched it several time, I am not sure why but in SHA the fireworks is not as much as the HKG ones. They provide a water show but I think the fireworks is not as good as the HKG ones. But, the song compilation is newer in SHA. My friend said that the HKG one is renowned now so maybe next time they will upgrade that (maybe). I am really touched by HKG fireworks shows but not when I was in SHA.

That's all about my point of view about China version of Disneyland, I hope I can visit another Disneyland soon, but maybe after I graduate from CQU.

P.S : if I can update from my laptop I'll add several photos from my trip to HKG and SHA ~

Life to the Fullest! 😘

My mom told me that I did everything that I love and I think that will be right and my mom also worried after I told her that I don't have enough time to traveling. For 25 years of my life I always do whatever that I want and I always break the rules and I really hate when I need to stay at the cage. But, my world is going upside-down now ~ What I define as PERFECT life is really hard to achieve when everything is in control everything well organized. My friend said that I am totally freak with that routine and everything in place. No No, I am not that kind of FREAK people who want everything in the right place. I also love to be messy but I think that depend on with someone that I think that closed enough with me. hahaha.

Now, I would like to write about what I think to life to the fullest if they said YOLO (You Only Live Once) I'll say just stayed to be yourself. I just read Jessica Hagy's book How to be INTERESTING and I think that I found someone who have the same idea with me about how to have an interesting life. It's not only about how much you have, how many friend that you have, and how your life in the other people eyes. No No No. It's more than that because your self satisfaction is determine by you and only you. No one will know what kind of things that will satisfied you.

This is how I tried to life to the fullest with my own version of happiness !! It's will be vary to everyone. It's only what I want to write (before China block the VPN and I can't write this blog anymore). 

1. Be yourself! YES YOU!

You'll never WRONG to be YOU. You have your own preference, your own standard and your own style. Why you need to be someone else when you are more than enough when you become yourself. I think when you brand yourself as what you want people think about you and brainwash the other what you want them to see you. It doesn't matter what people think and what people say behind your back, no one will be that perfect until no one talk about them. Everyone has their own mistakes and you can't make everyone like you, just make sure that you have more friend than enemy. hahaha

2. Never say ENOUGH

After I watched the greatest showman, it's a big mistake to always say never enough but that the truth. That a human being to say that I am not ENOUGH. hahaha. From the other point of view I think its a really great way to achieve something big and bigger than you think. It's okay to be greedy for something and have a really BIG DREAM. For me, if I say enough to something means that I will stop doing that or I never do that again. I will STOP and not getting what I want and sometime I am regret about that. I have a lot of regret but I also couldn't turn back time. The only thing than I need to set is never say enough to whatever that I want the most.

3.Everything is POSSIBLE, you just need to TRY

I remember about "What Faith Can Do" song,  -Impossible is not a word it's just a reason for someone not to try- that's what the lyrics said. You will never know what will happen if you never try. You need to try, and sometimes you need to fall down and then struggling and then want to die but you need to wake up and try again. TRY and TRY again. Everything is POSSIBLE at the right time with right people, so you need to find the right partner to be crazy with you and to accomplish that with you and has a same vision with you. I told to myself that if I don't want to fail just never try but I also never know what will be happen next if I accomplish that. Dream will always be a dream until you wake up and make it happen.

4. It's okay to be ALONE, but you won't feel LONELY

Several days ago, I talked with my friend and he said that I need to have more ME time ~ I tried this before I went out ALONE, but I look around and I felt that I am not lonely. That will be the golden time for you to realized what good and to be grateful with you have. Trust me that will be the greatest way to healing your exhausted day.

5. TRAVELING MORE, it's not about how far you go
I am not telling you to spend all of your money for traveling, you need to get some sunlight ~ Traveling is about getting something new at new place with new people (stranger maybe).

6. EAT. PRAY. LOVE
I never think before that I will think this movie title will be really good way to describe how you have a fullest life. First think that you need to remember is FOOD, and then you need to keep praying to your GOD because that will be a HOPE and the last is LOVE from the others, your family, your friends, your dogs, just anyone around you. hahaha.

China's Starter Kit

Hi, I am back and now I write using my laptop, it is more comfortable for me ~ hahaha. It's really hard to write from my phone and there is a lot of Google verification step that required a lot of time because I need to use the VPN ~

So, after I moved to Chongqing (China), that's really a whole new world for me. I need to connected to VPN before I opened my daily apps on my phone and then if I want to use the China apps I need to turn off that VPN, there are a lot of changes that I need to adapt here.

So, here are some of tips and trick that you need to know before you move to China and there is a rumor that the VPNs will be banded (officially) at the end of February, OMG that will be make me crazy for a while but I am sure that I can adapt with that for sure after several months. hahaha. Let's back to the point. 

1. Use 4G smartphone

Make sure that your smartphone is 4G, I used my previous phone, Xiaomi Note 2, which said 4G phone, but not (but when my friend use this it shows as 4G *damn*). Actually, when I used the wi fi everything is okay but when I used the mobile data sometime that will be really really slow, especially when it showed as 2G signal (E), but if you don't really use that for facebook, instagram or any other apps that will be okay. But, the WeChat pay can't be use at several place because of that will be no signal if we didn't use 4G connection.

After that I decided to but a new smartphone, Mi 6, 4G+ connection but it's only sold in China so it must be connected with the Google first, if not BYE WORLD. hahaha. I have a friend who also used Mi 6 and couldn't use PlayStore. I really can't do that without any google apps. hahaha. There is also one of the minus point for China's phone is can't update your VPNs based apps perfectly, because some of instagram features can't be updated on my phone T.T

2. Download VPNs

If you are from abroad, like to update and stalking people by their SNS you really need to download VPNs. Like I said before that the VPNs will be block soon. We are still not sure about that because the news only mention registered apps and the public internet provider not the private internet provider but that only will works with the wi fi router. hahaha. What kind of VPNs that we can used and which one is the best. If you want to keep connected with the VPNs the paid ones will be better but if you only want to update and play around maybe the free one is okay. 

Nowadays, the free one is really hard to connect especially if you use the mobile data, maybe the effect of BAND THE VPNs project ~ and I used china mobile as my provider. For the paid VPNs, Astrill is really good, but it takes 180 yuan/year/id and you need to have a promotion and also that you need to buy 6 ID directly when you want to purchase with that price. The other option is VPN.AC it's cheaper than Astrill and my friend also said it's quite good and it's only 55 yuan/year :D :D it's 1/3 of Astrill price right? But, if you think that you don't really need that kind of VPNs, you can use the free one and you need to download that before you enter China. 

I used Monster VPN, Turbo VPN, and psiphon and I think they are quite good with 4G smartphone of course, when I use my old smartphone sometime they are not work really well with data service but okay with the wi fi ~

3. Download Dictionary

This is the most essential things that you need to download after VPNs!! If they said that Chinese People can speak english that a big LIE! Hufft, I took an english program here but the environment is Chinese so I need to adapt with that language barrier again. There are several apps that will be helpful, but I preferred to use Baidu Translate and Pleco. Most of my Chinese friends using google translate (translate.google.com.cn) and they didn't need VPNs for that features. I prefer Pleco but for a whole sentences Baidu Translate is better to identify what they want to say. 

For my first month in China, I prefer to use Baidu Translate because that easier to use and I really blind with that Chinese words so, Baidu help me a lot especially with the photo features and also talks features. But, after a while and I need to learn more Chinese, Baidu didn't help me a lot. hahha. Pleco help me to write and how to write with the stroke, that's really look like a big data dictionary but only for words not sentences.

4. Useful Apps

Last things that you need to know and learn is what kind of China Apps that you need to have.  I already mention several apps above but China has a lot of Apps and you need that if you stay for a long time because that will save your money and trust me nothing cheap in China. 

Social Media (that I used here):

• WeChat, we chat is widely use by people here because of their features but because WeChat don't really give all out for Chinese User, I think they only use that to communicated with foreigner and the features maybe will be not really fancy like QQ. Basically if I need to compare this apps with my normal apps, this will be a WhatsApp.
• QQ, it is more fancy that WeChat because it's more like for youngster with a lot of modification and it's also contained a really cute features and news. It's really look like LINE but because that features only applied for Chinese Apps not International QQ it's harder to use for foreigner and they don't have translation features on China QQ. 
• Weibo, if "world" has Facebook and Instagram, China has Weibo - It's totally look a like but because I don't understand what the features of this and that so I only find the update from my favorite idol (Kpop) and then translate that but if I have VPNs I prefer to see the update from my normal SNS platform. 

Entertainment & Shopping:

• Taobao, I think most of people know Taobao so well, my cousin who stayed in Singapore also know about this apps. I never heard about that before I moved to China and I really don't know how to use that because everything in Chinese. Yes PRACTICE makes PERFECT. hahha After a month I can use this apps perfectly and buy a lot of things with this apps. hahaha. It's really fun to use this apps and it's also has a lot of official store, I need to pay for the shipment fee but it's okay then spent a whole day to go around the mall and the price is exactly the same and sometimes the goods also can't be found at the store.
• Taobao additional Apps - I also not sure what the name of this apps, but this apps can provide a lot of voucher for our "targeted" product from Taobao and it also has a special features to give you a list of 9.9  yuan products, I really love to scrolls that apps. hahaha
• Mini Apps from WeChat, this apps also has their own name but because I found it on WeChat and every payment is connected to WeChat so I said this apps as Mini Apps from WeChat. It's also has 9.9 yuan features and sometime a random cheap price like a lottery but I never get that. hahaha
• JD.com, if you want to buy an electronic products this apps or website is really worth to visit. The quality is better than Taobao for electronics only but I never use this apps because I am not really interested with electronics stuff.
• QQ Music, if you love music and really like to listen from JOOX or Spotify but don't want to use your VPNs this apps will be your favorite apps. But, if you use VPNs, this apps won't work and you need to pay for that.
• Alipay, this apps it the KEY for everything ~ you can buy everything with this apps, you don't need to bring your wallet, you only need ALIPAY. hahaha. It has a lot of features but it's only for transaction I think WeChat has more and the price sometimes WeChat features is cheaper so if you like to compare the price you can compare ALIPAY with WECHATPAY :D

Productivity:

• Baidu Maps, I think every country has their own apps for this apps. China also have a lot of maps apps but because Baidu is more understandable to foreigner I prefer to use this apps. Sometime it's wrong and they said from weibo there is a rumor about Baidu but I don't care about that. 
• QQ Mail, if you want to get the update form you gmail without VPNs use this QQ Mail and register your email. You'll get the update without using any VPN.

Chongqing Lyfe

I moved to Chongqing since last September (End of September exactly), leaving everything behind and come to nowhere! Have you ever heard Chongqing before? For me, that's the first time I heard Chongqing.

I decided to continuing my study and took the same degree with my undergraduate studies. After 1.5 years of work at biopharmaceutical field (without knowing how to do this and that because I only read and talked with the customer), I tried to take Biomedical Engineering. Actually, it's not totally new for me but I don't know why I felt like this is not my calling (again) after I spent 4 years of Biotechnology life and 1.5 years struggling to keep work at the same field.

How's life? Not Bad, but Not 50% Good. Haha. Standing in the crowd and taking a long time to adapt is not an easy task for me after I left everything that I love behind including my freedom to travel.

Am I HAPPY? Sure, if I am not happy I can't write it. Now, I already love some part of Chongqing life but still not adapt with the culture of "lies" and "okay". With "work hard" that literally "work hard" not "smart work". Have a small circle of friend when I expect that "International" life will be greater than my Kaset life but nothing! Maybe because I was too tired to go out from my room and there is no living room to meet up and also they didn't have too much "international activities" because they need to "work hard"

Maybe I'll realize the meaning of "work hard" after I spend all of my three years in here. Hahaha

That's all for now. This will be the start of my post about my Chongqing life and Happy New Year!!